Our Dates

Once a week my wife and I do something special. Something unique to reflect what we like doing as a couple. It may be going out to eat, watch a movie or just sit outside and talk. Whatever we choose, thank goodness the kids have nothing to do with it. For this edition of Freedom Friday, I’d like to give you a peek at what we enjoy doing on a date.

One of our many walks through our neighborhood
One of our many walks through our neighborhood

My wife and I have been married forever, although it doesn’t seem that way, given I still think it was yesterday. But yeah, we’ve been married for a long, long time. During the course of our life, we’ve done almost everything together. We visited Disney World, Disneyland, the Caribbean, Nova Scotia (oodles of times)—suffice it to say we’ve traveled a fair bit. However, what we enjoy the most are the simple things in life. No matter how busy we get throughout the week, we always try to spend some time away alone. It’s difficult with the kids, but we’ve managed quite fine.

Our big night is movie night. Every weekend, we pick a movie we’d like to watch, get some snacks, plop on the couch into a cuddle, and become entranced by the images on the screen. Sometimes the movie’s great. But sometimes, ugh, it’s awful. This prompts us to heckle the characters, which usually leads me to throw unknown projectiles at the screen. I can’t say how many times I have found popcorn, toys and socks behind the TV. It makes for some interesting conversation the next day, though. That’s what’s important, right?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve taken an opportunity every week or so to ask my wife out at our favorite eatery. Down the street from us, we visit a cozy, little restaurant called Mr. Greek. We call it “our place”. This is where we talk about life in general, in the warm setting of Greek food and music. It also provides some much-needed downtime in the middle of the week between tossing the kids between activities and the regular daily chores. We look forward to these impromptu dates. We really don’t know what our conversation will be like, but we know we’ll have lots to say.

Weekend Getaway to Barrie, Ontario
Weekend Getaway to Barrie, Ontario

Another fun thing we like doing together is to take weekends away from it all. We’re rather blessed because our town is located in and around resort country. A few minutes drive, we’re into beautiful vistas of lakes, streams and forests. One of the most memorable weekends we had without the kids was last spring when we traveled to Barrie, Ontario. We reserved a hotel room for a couple of nights and had fun in the pool, restaurants, walks, talks—it was so great. We had a fabulous time. You know, there’s nothing like being alone together without the cares of the daily grind.

I’m going to let this post fade with our most favorite thing we enjoy doing (besides that). We’re walking enthusiasts. Yep. We love walking around our neighborhood, hand-in-hand, talking, laughing, joking—gosh, I just noticed we seem to talk a lot with each other, huh? In the summer, our usual jaunt begins from our house and covers about two kilometers (a mile). As we take in the aroma of BBQ drifting in the air, we love seeing our neighbors’ kids having fun kicking a soccer ball in their yard.

What are your favorite things to do on a date? Do you have some place special you like to go?

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22 thoughts on “Our Dates

  1. One of the perfect example to live life to the fullest is here in your post really as you know how to make things more beautiful in every days life 😉 Awesome post..thanks for sharing dear!

  2. Mr Flacco, it is way past my bed time but when I saw a post from you that was not a movie review I couldn’t stop myself from reading on and I’m so glad I did. Thank you for sharing. Taking time for things that you mentioned is so important (and maybe rare), I congratulate you and your wife!

    • Thank you! I enjoy sharing my life with my readers to encourage a more meaningful dialogue. This certainly has proven to serve as a catalyst for others to share about their experiences with their readership. I appreciate your comment, thanks again!

  3. There really is something about the atmosphere and food in many Greek restaurants that’s conducive to life conversations! Dating for me is still in the context of getting to know someone, so coffee, walks, kayaking, short day trips…all great. Thanks for the reminder that it’s important to keep dating as a relationship progresses, too!

  4. Great post! 🙂 We like to snuggle up in front of Star Trek episodes (oh, Netflix!), cook hot dogs and marshmallows on a fire in our back yard, or go to Lowe’s and dream about the gazillion dollars worth of things we’d like to do to our house. 😀

  5. Impromptu dates have been awesome for us. We also do a lot of day dates, send the kids to school and hang out at home or venture out. But the key was not to have a date, just to have a date, but literally take time to maximize it with whatever makes my spouse happy. On Monday we are celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary, wow! I guess time flies when you are fun with the one God has blessed you with 🙂

  6. What a great post. My husband and I have only been married a little over a year, and part of the reason we are postponing having kids is that we want to spend as much quality time together by ourselves before we have kids taking up our time and attention. It’s so nice to read about your and your wife having a lasting marriage and still finding time for each other even after all the years of marriage and having kids.

  7. This was a great post and I love that you continue to go out on dates. We love going to the movies and eating out. We’ve done it since way back…and it’s still one of our favorite things to do together. In fact, tomorrow is “date night.” We’re watching “Oblivion” and going out for steaks for his birthday. 🙂 Bless you and your family~E

  8. I love hearing about couples who are intentional about investing in their relationship. Life can become such a mess of “to do” lists and responsibilities that we forget to spend time focusing on each other.
    My husband and I like to go out to a movie and dinner whenever we can. Often we will have a movie night at home or just sit and discuss whatever is on our minds over homemade coffee. This morning I took him to the neurology specialist and we stopped at Chick-fil-a on the way to pick up the little one from Grandma’s. With a one-year-old even a doctor’s appointment can turn into a date! Ha!

    • Thanks, Kaela! Aren’t the simple things in life wonderful? Like you said, even sitting and chatting over a homemade coffee makes for a date. Something I didn’t add is the time we spend cooking together in the kitchen. It almost becomes a ballet, shuffling between ingredients, and sharing conversation. Huh, it’s fulfilling and filling! 🙂

  9. This is a great post! You two are taking the time now to stay connected. It is so sad to hear of 20+ year marriages that fall apart after the kids go to college or leave home. The husband and wife then find out they don’t know each other and don’t like each other. You are setting a fantastic example for your children!

    Leslie

    • Thank you! I appreciate your words of wisdom, Leslie. So true what you say about marriage. It’s that connection that needs constant nurturing, which keeps a marriage alive. And oh, what fun it is to keep it alive! 😉

  10. this was one wonderful post, jack.
    we used to have date night every Saturday. But since she got her RN job at the hospital, its been every other.
    we would either go to a play, see a band, a movie, or something like that. We’ve only taken a couple vacations with just the two of us. The first one was Daytona, FL where we got engaged and the other was New Orleans where we took our honeymoon. NOLA, being my favorite.
    One of my favorite things to do though, was to go fishing at night together. We’d get a bottle of something, bait, and something in a picnic basket…and we’d fish until 3 or 4am. Talking. That was the best part.
    Thanks for showing a part of your life, Jack, i wish you two many more years together!
    peace

    • Thank you for your inspiring story as well, Brad! Nice to hear you and your wife going strong after many years. I’ve been reading so many Grisham books lately that I’ve actually been thinking of popping down to NOLA myself one of these days. It’s such a beautiful place, rich in culture. Especially the French quarter! Oh, and your evening fishing excursions sound phenomenal. Thanks for sharing that with us!

  11. The Patient Husband and I like to take little day trips–not too far, since we have elderly cats–but far enough that it feels like a fun outing. We can be tourists 50 miles from home.

    There’s an iris farm not too far away–I’m planning to look that one up and plan that little trip. And we recently visited Amish country near Bloomfield Iowa.

    Last year we visited the Loess Hills Lavender Farm over by the Mississippi River. It would have been more fun if it wasn’t 106 degrees Fahrenheit out that day, but still, a good trip.

    • er..the lavender farm is by the MISSOURI river, not the Mississippi. One’s the west border, the other is the east border.

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